Everyone wants happiness in their lives as much as possible but they all are unknown about where it really comes from. According to world health organization more than 264 million people of all ages suffer from depression. It seems like people doesn’t find happiness as they want. There is popular book of Mark Manson. Which suggest the idea about where happiness comes from. As per Manson happiness comes from solving problems. Is it ?
Manson writes, Problems are constant in life. Problems never stop; they merely get exchanged with other problems. As you decide to overcome your health problems by joining fitness you add problems like having to get up early, sweating , having to take showered and problem of managing time. Like this you generate more problems.
Happiness
comes from solving problems. The key word here is “solving”. If you’re avoiding
your problems or feel like you don’t have any problems, then you’re going to
make yourself miserable. If you feel like you have problems that you can’t
solve you will likewise yourself miserable. The sauce is in the solving
of the problems, not in not having problems in the first place.
To
be happy we need something to solve. Happiness is therefore a form of action;
it’s an activity, not something that is passively bestowed upon you, not
something that you magically discover in a top ten article, post or from any
specific guru or teacher. It doesn’t magically appear when you finally make
enough money to add on that extra room to the house. You don’t find it waiting
for you in a place, an idea, a job or even a book for that matter.
Happiness
is a constant work-in-progress, because solving problems is constant solutions
to today’s problems will lay the foundation for tomorrow’s problems and so on.
True happiness occurs only when you find the you enjoy having and you enjoy
solving. Sometimes those problems are simple as eating testy food, travelling
to new place. Other times those problems are abstract and complicated like
fixing your relationship with your mother , finding a career you can feel good
about , developing better friendship. Whatever your problems are, the concept
is the same: solve problems; be happy. Unfortunately for many people, life
doesn’t feel that simple. There is two reason behind it one is that they deny
their problems exist in the first place. And because they deny reality, they
must constantly delude or distract themselves from reality. This may make them
feel good in the short term, but it leads to life of insecurity, neuroticism
and emotionally repression.
Another
reason is victim mentality; some choose to believe that there is nothing they
can do to solve their problems, even when they in fact could. Victims seek to
blame others for their problems or blame outside circumstances. This may make
them feel better in short term, but it leads to life of anger, helplessness and
despair.
To
sum up, if we start to solve our problems rather than denying it we tend to
escape from horrible sadness and depression, it is important to be happy to
stay mentally healthy.
